WAEP7 Get What You Expect

Get what you expect. Here’s how.


  1. Believe in yourself.
  2. Believe in others.
  3. Rinse and repeat.


Is it really that simple? Yes and no, but mostly, yes. It’s all about creating a positive mindset, which for some, is admittedly more difficult than it is for others, but can be done.

Here’s what we need to understand:

Pygmalion Effect: The high expectations a person of influence has of us results in higher expectations of ourselves, and thus better performance outcomes.

Examples: My Fair Lady, Gladiator, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, A Knight’s Tale

Golem Effect: (The opposite of the Pygmalion Effect.) The low expectations a person of influence has of us results in lower expectations of ourselves, and thus poor performance outcomes.

Examples: A family member who tells you that you won’t ever amount to anything or a teacher who labels you as a trouble-maker

Galatea Effect: Our own high or low expectations of ourselves without regard to outside influences.

Examples: Telling yourself that you can’t make a free throw (either aloud or to yourself); Telling yourself that you’re always late; Telling yourself that you’re going to land a big client; Telling yourself that you’re getting better at a particular task. Telling yourself that you’re an efficient, productive person.

Navajo Proverb:

Thoughts are like arrows: once released, they strike their mark. Guard them well or one day you may be your own target.

You get what you expect, positively, or negatively. Why not expect the best?


How do these effects make their mark in your life?

Let me know what you think in the comments!

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About KMiller

Kori Miller began studying self-defense when she was 17 years old. Over the years, her formal practice has seen its ups and downs, but her desire to continue learning never has. She's trained in Tae Kwon Do, Shotokan Karate, and Hapkido. It is this last style that won her heart. Her philosophy is, "don't be there, but if you must, then protect yourself." Your personal safety starts with a healthy respect for situational awareness and using powerfully, positive body language. Kori is an author, speaker, and trainer.
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