WHO’S IN CHARGE HERE ANYWAY?
What part of our brain is in charge of our fear response? Is it true that we run or fight? Can you easily identify aggressive body language?
In this episode, I identify where fear comes from, what really happens when we’re faced with a threat (freeze, flee, or fight — do we only have one choice?), and introduce several types of behavior that are typically viewed as aggressive. Some are more subtle than others.
And stay tuned for your safety tip of the week. It’s all about locks. (but not the Hapkido variety.)
Now that you’ve had a chance to listen, what do you think? I bet you’re going to watch critters a bit more closely, huh?
You might be curious why people fight if they have the option to flee. Have you ever been to a bar and seen two people get their undies in a twist? It’s not life or death. It’s a simple shove or accidental push that gets misinterpretted. Then one thing leads to another and someone throws a punch. (Usually a considerable amount of drugs and/or alcohol are involved, but not always.)
Deep down we all know why this happens.
Pride. The perception that we need to save face.
Women aren’t necessarily any less guilty of this than men.
When the perceived stakes are high, maybe our pride gets the best of us, and we react badly.
But in a life or death situation, primal instincts drive us to protect ourselves in the most logical way. We will freeze, flee, or fight, and fighting will be viewed by our old brain as the last option. We believe in self-protection.